Whether you’re considering coaching, curious about trauma-informed approaches, or wondering if my book is right for you — these are the questions I hear most. If you don’t see your question here, reach out directly. I’m happy to help.
About Coaching
What is trauma-informed coaching?
Trauma-informed coaching is a professional coaching approach that recognizes how past trauma shapes present-day thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Unlike traditional coaching that focuses primarily on goals and accountability, trauma-informed coaching addresses the underlying patterns — mental loops, emotional triggers, and nervous system responses — that keep people stuck. It uses evidence-based principles like neuroplasticity to help you rewire those patterns. Read my full guide on trauma-informed coaching here.
How is coaching different from therapy?
Therapy is a clinical service provided by a licensed mental health professional. It can include diagnosis, treatment of mental health conditions, and deep processing of traumatic experiences. Coaching is forward-looking and action-oriented — it focuses on identifying stuck patterns and building new ones through practical tools, accountability, and neuroplasticity-based strategies. The two can complement each other, but they serve different purposes. Coaching is not a replacement for therapy.
Do I need to talk about my trauma in coaching?
No. You never have to share the details of what happened to you. I work with the patterns and effects that trauma created — not the story behind them. Healing can happen without disclosure, and your privacy is always respected. This is one of the core principles of my coaching practice and my book.
What does a coaching session look like?
Sessions are one-on-one conversations. We focus on what’s happening in your life right now — the patterns you’re noticing, the places you feel stuck, and the changes you want to make. I’ll help you identify thought patterns, understand the nervous system science behind them, and practice new ways of responding. Every session ends with something practical you can apply immediately.
How long does coaching take?
It depends on your goals and your pace. Some clients experience meaningful shifts within a few sessions. Others benefit from several months of consistent work. The goal is never to stay in coaching permanently — it’s to build internal tools that last. We’ll talk about timing and expectations during your free discovery call.
How much does coaching cost?
Individual coaching sessions are $125 per session. I also offer a 4-session package at a 10% discount — sessions are scheduled consecutively over 4 weeks to build momentum and reinforce new patterns. If cost is a barrier, I’m willing to adjust pricing, and I offer pro bono sessions for those in need. Healing shouldn’t be limited by finances. The best way to determine which option fits your situation is to book a free discovery call where we can talk about your goals and what would work best for you.
Do you offer virtual coaching?
Yes. I offer both in-person and virtual coaching sessions, so you can work with me from anywhere. Both formats are equally effective — what matters most is the quality of the conversation and your willingness to do the work between sessions.
Is your coaching faith-based?
My faith informs my perspective on the value of every individual, but I respect diverse beliefs and always tailor my approach to your personal comfort level. The tools I use — neuroplasticity, pattern recognition, behavioral change strategies — are grounded in science and work regardless of your belief system. You’ll never be pressured toward any particular worldview.
About Trauma and Healing
How do I know if I’m dealing with trauma or just stress?
Stress is a normal response to current pressures that typically resolves when the situation changes. Trauma-based patterns persist long after the original situation has ended. If you find yourself reacting in ways that feel disproportionate to what’s happening, repeating the same cycles despite understanding them, or feeling stuck in patterns you can’t think your way out of — those are signs that trauma may be shaping your responses. Learn more about trauma-based behaviors vs. personality here.
Can trauma change your personality?
Trauma doesn’t change your core personality, but it can layer survival behaviors on top of it so thickly that you lose sight of who you are underneath. Things like people-pleasing, perfectionism, emotional shutdown, and hypervigilance are often trauma responses mistaken for personality traits. With the right support, these patterns can be identified and rewired, allowing your authentic self to emerge. Read my full article on this topic here.
What if I’ve already been to therapy and I’m still stuck?
This is one of the most common reasons people come to me. Therapy often provides insight — you learn why you are the way you are. But insight doesn’t always translate to behavior change. Coaching bridges that gap by giving you practical tools, accountability, and a structured process for rewiring the patterns that therapy helped you identify. Understanding the problem is important. Building new patterns is what creates lasting change.
Is it possible to heal without telling anyone what happened?
Absolutely. This is something I feel strongly about. You can heal without disclosing your story to anyone. My book, Healing What Hides in the Shadows, was written specifically for people who want to heal privately, safely, and on their own terms. Your trauma was uniquely yours, and your healing gets to be too.
What is neuroplasticity and how does it help with healing?
Neuroplasticity is your brain’s proven ability to reorganize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. When you experience trauma, your brain creates survival-based neural pathways that become automatic over time. Neuroplasticity means those pathways are not permanent — with consistent, intentional practice of new responses, your brain can build new defaults. This is the scientific foundation behind trauma-informed coaching.
How do I know if I need coaching or therapy?
If you are experiencing symptoms like flashbacks, panic attacks, severe depression, suicidal thoughts, or inability to function in daily life, a licensed therapist or counselor is the right starting point. If you understand your story and have done some healing work but still feel stuck in patterns you can’t break, coaching may be what’s missing. Many people benefit from both at different stages of their journey.
About My Book
What is “Healing What Hides in the Shadows” about?
Healing What Hides in the Shadows: A Private Journey Through Sexual Trauma Recovery is a trauma-informed guide for survivors of sexual abuse who are ready to reclaim their lives through evidence-based healing practices. It’s built on somatic trauma therapy, neuroscience research, and years of survivor support. The book offers tools, truth, and hope for people who want to heal without having to tell their story to anyone.
Do I have to be a survivor of sexual trauma to benefit from the book?
The book was written specifically for survivors of sexual trauma, and the tools and language are tailored to that experience. However, many of the principles — understanding your nervous system, working with trauma responses, healing privately, and rebuilding your sense of self — apply broadly to anyone dealing with the effects of trauma.
Where can I buy the book?
The book is available on Amazon. You can also learn more about it on my website.
Is the book a replacement for therapy or coaching?
No. The book is a self-guided resource that offers tools and understanding for private healing. It is not therapy, and it is not a substitute for professional support. If you need clinical mental health care, please work with a licensed therapist. The book works well as a companion to therapy, coaching, or as a starting point for people who aren’t ready for either.
About Working with Me
Who do you work with?
I work with adults, teens, couples, families, business leaders, and athletes. The common thread among my clients is this: they understand their problem but can’t think their way out of it. They’ve done the work — therapy, self-help books, personal reflection — but they’re still stuck in the same patterns. I help them close the gap between knowing and doing.
What is a discovery call?
A discovery call is a free, no-pressure conversation where we talk about where you are, where you want to be, and what feels like it’s in the way. It’s not a sales pitch — it’s an honest conversation to see if coaching is the right fit for your situation. If it’s not, I’ll tell you. You can book one here.
What should I expect after the discovery call?
If we decide to work together, I’ll create a personalized coaching roadmap based on your goals, your patterns, and your pace. There’s no cookie-cutter program. We start where you are and build from there.
What does “No Blaming, No Complaining, No Excuses” mean?
It’s one of my core coaching principles. It means we don’t spend our time assigning blame for the past, complaining about what’s unfair, or making excuses for staying stuck. Instead, we focus on what you can control, what you can change, and what you’re willing to do about it. It’s not about being harsh — it’s about being honest and forward-moving. Responsibility without shame.
What does “You are valuable beyond measure” mean to you?
It’s the foundation of everything I do. I believe every person is valuable — not because of what they’ve achieved, survived, or proven, but simply because they exist. Trauma often teaches people the opposite: that their worth depends on performance, compliance, or usefulness. One of the most important things I help my clients rediscover is that their value was never in question. It was always there.
Still Have Questions?
I’d love to hear from you. You can email me directly or book a free discovery call to talk about your situation.
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