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Have a question about trauma, healing, mindset, or moving forward? You’re not alone. These posts are designed to give you insight, clarity, and something you can actually use — whether you’re healing privately, supporting someone who is, or just trying to get unstuck.
What Does the Bible Say About Anger?
THE ANGER SERIES • PART 5 OF 5 What Does the Bible Say About Anger? When psychology names the pattern and the gospel provides the power source By Coach Agenna | coachagenna.com Reading time: 7–8 minutes If you’ve been reading this series from the beginning, you...
Why Do I Keep Going Back to Anger?
THE ANGER SERIES • PART 4 OF 5 Why Do I Keep Going Back to Anger? When losing a fight feels like losing yourself By Coach Agenna | coachagenna.com Reading time: 7–8 minutes You’ve done the work. You’ve read the articles. You understand that anger is a secondary...
Your Inner Critic and Anger
THE ANGER SERIES • PART 3 OF 5 Your Inner Critic and Anger The voice that hired the bodyguard—and how to relieve it of duty By Coach Agenna | coachagenna.com Reading time: 7–8 minutes You already know anger is a secondary emotion. You know your brain trades...
Why Does Anger Feel So Good?
THE ANGER SERIES • PART 2 OF 5 Why Does Anger Feel So Good? The neurochemistry behind the emotion your brain keeps choosing By Coach Agenna | coachagenna.com Reading time: 7–8 minutes Let’s be honest about something nobody talks about. Anger feels good. Not in the...
Anger Is the Bodyguard, Not the Boss
THE ANGER SERIES | PART 1 OF 5 Anger Is the Bodyguard, Not the Boss Why your anger isn’t the problem—it’s the cover story. Someone I love sat across from me recently and said something so honest it stopped the whole conversation. “I’m trying to figure out the exact...
Grounding Techniques for Holiday Triggers | Christmas Survival for Trauma Survivors
Part 3 of the Christmas Survival Series for Trauma Survivors You shouldn't have to white-knuckle your way through Christmas dinner. And with the right tools? You won't. Perhaps you've already decided to go. Maybe you have to go—for your kids, for a family member who...
If You’re Going: Your Complete Christmas Safety Plan
Part 2 of the Christmas Survival Series for Trauma Survivors So you've decided to go. Maybe you weighed the options, and attendance feels like the right choice this year. Maybe the cost of not going feels higher than the cost of going. Maybe you're not ready to skip...
You Don’t Have to Go: Permission to Protect Your Peace This Christmas
Somewhere along the way, you were taught that the holidays mean you owe people things. Access. Affection. Performance. Forgiveness.
Let me be very clear about what you don’t owe anyone—including family, including your abuser, including anyone who makes you feel guilty for protecting yourself.
Secondary Trauma: When Their Pain Becomes Yours
Understanding vicarious trauma in caregivers You wake up in a panic, heart racing, drenched in sweat. But nothing happened to YOU. Your child is the one in crisis. You're just the one watching. So why does your body feel like YOU'RE the one under attack? Because you...