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Have a question about trauma, healing, or transformation? You’re not alone. Here, I answer the questions my clients ask most—and the ones you might be too afraid to ask out loud. Each post is designed to give you insight, clarity, and actionable steps forward.
“Size Gaslighting: When Others Police Your Own Body Knowledge”
This is Part 4 of the "Weight of Words" series. Read Part 1 | Part 2: The Whisper Test | Part 3: The Compliment That Cuts I'm an XL or 1X, depending on the brand and cut. This isn't speculation. I know this because I live in this body. Dressing it every single day...
The Compliment That Cuts: When ‘You Look Great’ Actually Means ‘You’re Finally Acceptable’
“You look amazing! Lost weight?” seems kind but may celebrate someone’s crisis. Exploring why weight loss compliments hurt and what to say instead.
The Whisper Test: What We Say When We Think It Doesn’t Matter
This is Part 2 of the "Weight of Words" series. Read Part 1: Why I'm Writing This Series Recently, I was in a professional setting when I heard body shaming language that stopped me cold - words whispered as if they were shameful. "Extra large." Not loudly. Not...
The Weight of Words: Why I’m Writing This Series
I work with people every day who are healing from trauma they didn’t even know they were carrying. Sometimes that trauma comes from a single devastating event. But more often? It comes from a thousand small cuts – comments, glances, whispers – that told them they...
Sexual Trauma, Porn & Shame: Questions Survivors Ask
Let's Talk About What Nobody Talks About: Porn, Shame, and the Search for Control Part 2 of the "Questions Nobody Asks Out Loud" Series Okay, deep breath. We're going there. This is the blog post you're reading in incognito mode. The one you'll probably close...
The Truth About Your Worth: Why Shame Isn’t Yours to Carry
If you’ve experienced trauma, you probably carry a weight of shame so heavy it’s become part of how you see yourself. You’ve spent years believing that shame is telling you the truth about who you are. It’s not. Let me show you why—and how to release it.
Sexual Trauma and Your Body: The Questions Survivors Are Afraid to Ask
Part 1 of the "Questions Nobody Asks Out Loud" Series There are questions about sexual trauma you Google at 2am. Questions you delete from your search history. Questions that make you feel like maybe you're the only person twisted enough to even wonder about them....
Identity After Sexual Trauma: Finding Yourself Again
Sexual orientation, gender identity, and the question every survivor asks: “Is this really me, or is this what trauma made me?” Honest answers inside.
Why I Wrote “Healing What Hides in the Shadows”: A Coach’s Heart for Hidden Trauma
For over a decade as a life and mindset coach, I've sat across from countless clients who apologized for being "too sensitive," wondered why they couldn't "just get over" their anxiety, or believed their struggles were simply part of their personality. What broke my...
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